PLEASE HELP.. desperate?!?  

answers 0:I will try to make this short. I am 18 and he is 19. HIM: he lives in the ghetto in Springfield Ohio, his family is ridden with crack heads, he lights up joints more than cigarettes, he got kicked out of high school, he has no car, his dad is a heroin junkie, his mom lives in Indiana, his whole family lives off his grandma in one dirty, cat-piss smelling house, who is crazy and sells pills, his friends make drugs and he helps them, he is covered In homemade tattoos, wears the same clothes everyday.. AND HAS NO JOB. ME: Very involved student I'm high school, was a cheerleader and straight A student. I have a job at the best nursing home in the county as an aide. I went to college for nursing but just recently stopped college to work for a while and decide what I really want to do.. I plan on quitting though once I get bigger for safety reasons and my mother is offering to help me quit so I can go back to school or classes while I'm pregnant. I have a car that I pay insurance on. My father is U.S. Army retired and my mother is a dental assistant. We have a very nice home in a nice town, we all have not a thing to do with pot or drugs. I am responsible and already love my baby more than life.QUESTION: Is there any way he could take the baby away from me? I don't want to go to court but if he somehow manages to take it that far.. What will happen? I don't even want JOINT custody!!! I don't want my child ever exposed to that disgusting sh!thole EVER. What should I do? What will happen??...Show more answers 1:I cant imagine this guy would even know you had the baby by the sound of it, but you never know in that messed up brain what he might be thinking. If this all went to Court I am sure you could adequately prove you have the support of a loving family behind you and can provide for your child etc as he/she grows up. Any Social Worker seeing the lifestyle you have described as that of the father would certainly not advocate the child living with him. However a child is for life and as the father gets older and maybe more sensible he may require access to see the child and be more active in how he wants him to grow up etc. These are all factors you will have to consider - would you allow supervised access for your child in the future? What if the grandmother/grandfather want to play a part? Maybe you would require a restraining order if drug problems etc do not improve. A mistake you have made for sure by choosing this loser, but what is done is done now, so be positive and prove how a good a mother you can be. Good luck.... answers 2:nope! dont worrie not a chance. im goin through something similar except with my nieces im adopting. so dont worrie, you just stay strait and be a good mommy. answers 3:Im sure you wouldn't have aproblem showing he was unfit especially if he would fail a drug test , So I think you are fine and prob wont have to go to court if hdoesn'tnt push the issue but if he does then you would have to go and who knows how long that all will take answers 4:Why on earth would you have ever gotten involved with a guy like that and even more so, get pregnant by him? What were you thinking? He was good enough for you before you got pregnant but not now?Wow lady....incredible that you would ever get involved with trash like that in the 1st place. There were no red flags going off? Or was it just a one night stand?How can you say your responsible? Look at the person who is the father of your baby...that is not responsible at all. And really, if he really wanted to, he could just come take the baby and never come back. He's into drugs and such...lives a rotten life, how are you so sure, he won't be drunk or high and just show up and take the baby? If he wants the baby bad enough, he could find a way to kidnap the baby...are you sure joint custody will be enough? No, it won't be. How can you trust someone like that? You won't allow joint custody...Again, why did you get involved with this guy?Yep..well good luck lady! Remember...your the one who brought this into your child's life!... answers 5:BUT will he have a chance at joint custody?? answers 6:i asked for advicenot for someone to sit here and tell me how stupid it was to have sex with him. what is done is done.its not like i went into this knowing what his home life was like. its not like i had sex not using protection!! stuff happens and this is my situation, so thanks a lot woman... answers 7:Nope you will get full custody of the child because the condition he is in. Don't worry 🙂 Best of luck.